Saturday, August 25, 2007 @5:36 PM
we're just two days away from prelims, yet i'm here.
and that's because there's just something i have to rationalise, and i must rationalise it now or
never. (waaaaahhh drama)
anyway, it seems that the less fairness a person is treated with, the more they tend to compromise their position on controversial issues. for instance, someone who has always mantained a solid relationship with their parents will most likely (have enough maturity to) understand their parents' problems, and voice their suggestions and possible solutions. as such, they would have gotten used to being valued and treated as if they were deserving of respect, even as a child.
when faced with issues concerning unreasonability or unjust treatment by parents in general, they would go all out to debunk all arguments in favour of understanding the psyche of these parents, or giving them due tolerance, considering the tremendous amounts of stress and difficulties these parents face in life.
this is my stand. physical abuse is wrong and stupid and will not happen unless the parent is mentally unsound. but emotional abuse is unfair and unjustified, and it may be very common, because it is often invisible, and it is not easily criticised and stopped by people who can make a difference. (those outside the family unit)
i believe that subjecting one of your children to emotional pain, and refusing to explain why you're making them feel so lousy about themselves, is really being quite unfair to the child.
it's not her fault unless she knows for sure where she has gone wrong.
if she has intentionally chosen to sidestep and do something immoral and against her conscience, then it's her fault, then she should reflect and be repentful.
but if she has done something that has made a parent upset, and she has absolutely no idea what she did wrong, then the emotional hurt and guilt felt is not only unfair but also pointless.
furthermore, the parent fails to consider or even care that emotional wounds are not like physical wounds which heal and are forgotten over time. emotional wounds turn into scars.
and then, when the child delineates herself and chooses to live on a different emotional world as compared to the parent, he posits that she is strange, desensitized, and antisocial.
but really, it isn't her fault that she's numb to external ordeals.
there's a reason behind every action, right? and between humans, nothing is ever purely instinctual.
maybe she just has to indulge in more vitamin c sources.
helps to regenerate and strengthen intracellular substances.
omg why am i even talking bio?!
i dont take bio do i.
no pam you dont take bio.
you take pcme.
okay then
all the best for prelims, study hard and God bless. (:
